This post is sponsored by Messenger Kids and SheKnows Media.

My family has found that too many family rules aren’t fun and can make parents and kids grumpy and tired. So you don’t need too many rules, just the RIGHT rules!

I recently blogged about Piper using the new Messenger Kids app. When I talked about their rules, it made me think about my own family rules. I love how easily I am able to apply Messenger Kids rules to my own family’s life!  

Today, I’m going to share some tips for family about how to follow Messenger Kids rules while your using the app and in real life!

  1. Be Kind

Kindness matters. We talk about kindness in our home quite often. There are many ways to be kind, and one general rule of thumb is to treat others the way you want to be treated.

Here are some of our favorite ways to be kind in real life:

Smile at a stranger.  

Give genuine compliments.

Listen to others.

Hold the door open.

Share with your siblings.

Here are some of the ways to be kind using Messenger Kids:

Listen to your friends.  

Give your family and friends compliments.  

Share the tablet with your little brother, so he can tell Grandma his latest cheesy joke.


  1. Be Respectful

I was taught to be respectful to my elders, but I want my children to be respectful to everyone they meet – no matter the age. It’s such a great way to make everyone feel special, because everyone is special and everyone matters.  

Some great ways kids can be respectful in real life:

Be punctual, everyone’s time is just as valuable.  

Communicate, use your words and manners.    

Don’t take things that don’t belong to you, ask first, and then return them promptly.

Ways of being respectful on Messenger Kids:

Make time to chat with Grandma and be punctual.

Do your homework before you sign on to chat with your friends.

When your parents say it’s time to go in sleep mode, don’t argue with them.


  1. Be Safe

This is a big one. We start when children are young – “look both ways,” “always ask before you go outside,” “always check in and let your parents know what you are doing.” These easily translate to the online world as well.   

Simple safety ideas for real life:

Know your address and phone number.

Get to know your neighbors.

Check smoke detectors.

Safety ideas on Messenger Kids:

Most of this is taken care of by the nature of the app (thank you, Facebook!)

Tell your parents promptly if anyone says anything that scares you or makes you feel uncomfortable – friends or family.  


  1.  Have Fun.

My favorite one rule ever! Rules 1-3 have the basics covered, now it’s time to have fun.  

Ways to have fun in real life:

Be imaginative.

Be Curious.

Let loose.

Ideas for how to have fun on Messenger Kids:

Invite grandma to dinner or on a walk.

Ask Grandpa for help with homework, his cheesy jokes are way better than mom stumbling through fractions.

Start a group chat about Halloween costumes, use fun filters as inspiration!


Messenger Kids is a fun app that helps kids communicate safely with friends and family. It’s ad-free and not an actual Facebook account. Parents give kids certain permissions to talk to certain contacts on their accounts. No data is collected, it’s free, it’s safe and parents can monitor everything through an easy to use parental portal. You can download it in the Apple, Android, or Amazon Fire app stores.

After a quick parental set up, your kids are ready to chat with Grandma! Piper actually used Messenger Kids just this week to talk her grandparents about her skateboarding accident and assure them that she was well because she always wears her helmet!

You can read more about it on my first Messenger Kids blog.  or visit their website.